How to Help Your Child Build Connections (Even If They Hate Networking)
For many young people, the word networking is enough to make them cringe. The idea of approaching strangers, talking about themselves, or trying to “sell” their skills can feel unnatural or intimidating. Yet in today’s job market, who you know can matter just as much as what you know.
As a parent, you can play a quiet but powerful role in helping your child build connections in a way that feels genuine, and doesn’t compromise who they are.
Reframe Networking as Relationship-Building
Young adults often see networking as something reserved for corporate types in suits at formal events. Help your child reframe it as simply talking to people and being curious. It’s about building relationships, not handing out business cards.
If you notice them hesitating to reach out to someone, encourage them to think of it as a conversation, not a performance.
Start Close to Home
One of the easiest ways to start networking is through existing connections. This might include former classmates, tutors, family friends, or Ashbourne alumni. Remind your child that reaching out to someone they already know (or know of) can be less intimidating than trying to connect with strangers.
Sometimes, just asking someone about their own career journey can open doors or spark new ideas.
Practice Makes Confidence
If your child finds professional situations awkward, help them practise. They could write a short message to someone on LinkedIn or draft an email to a former teacher. Offer to look over it if they’re unsure, but try not to take over. It’s about them building confidence in their own voice.
Even a polite message like: “Hi, I’ve recently graduated and I’m exploring careers in publishing. I saw your work and would love to hear more about your experience if you’re open to a quick chat.” is more than enough.
Help Them See the Bigger Picture
It’s easy for graduates to feel networking is transactional or self-serving. Gently remind them that most professionals want to help younger people starting out. After all, they’ve been there too.
People remember kindness, curiosity, and humility, not slick presentations. Encouraging your child to ask thoughtful questions, say thank you, and follow up after conversations helps them build real connections over time.
Encourage Them to Use Online Tools Wisely
LinkedIn, alumni directories, and even interest-based forums can be great places to connect. If your child is uncomfortable promoting themselves, suggest they use these platforms to learn first, reading others’ career stories, commenting on posts, or joining relevant groups.
Little steps help them feel more comfortable before they begin reaching out.
Remind Them of Their Foundations
Ashbourne College nurtures independence and confidence, qualities that serve students well far beyond A-levels. If your child doubts their ability to engage professionally, remind them of times they’ve already succeeded: in interviews, class discussions, group projects. These are all forms of networking in action.
And let them know they’re still part of the Ashbourne community. Whether it’s asking a former tutor for advice or connecting with another graduate, the network is there to support them.
Final Insight: Support Quiet Growth
Your child doesn’t need to become the most outgoing person in the room to build a network. Help them focus on small, genuine conversations, one step at a time. With your encouragement and a bit of practice, they’ll discover that networking isn’t about being someone they’re not. It’s about showing up, staying curious, and building connections that last.
If you’d like more insights on supporting your child as they navigate life after school or university, check out our post on helping them through their first year of work.
1. Why do many young people dislike networking?
Networking often feels intimidating because it’s seen as self-promotion or forced small talk. Reframing it as simple relationship-building helps make the process feel more natural.
2. How can parents reframe networking for their child?
Encourage your child to see networking as curiosity-driven conversations rather than performances. It’s about listening, asking questions, and building genuine professional relationships.
3. Where should my child start if they find networking overwhelming?
Starting close to home is easiest, classmates, tutors, family friends, or alumni. Familiar connections reduce pressure and can lead to new opportunities.
4. How can I help my child practise networking skills?
Suggest they draft LinkedIn messages or emails and offer feedback if they ask. Practising short, polite messages helps them grow confident in their professional voice.